anger management

there are times when anger can be righteous and healthy.
like anger toward sin.
most times, my anger is not that type.

i've heard ugly, untrue or divisive gossip.
or even hurts spoken directly to me, about myself or my family.
story after story of abused, neglected and starving children.
deep past hurts in my life that creep up now and then, they beg for anger to kindle.
my husband not doing things the right way. my way.
uncertainty about my son's future and my ability to control it.
it can all make me angry.

when i allow anger to settle in to my heart, i get sick.
so sick that the putrid mess of my rage, ingratitude, frustration and impatience
spews onto just about anyone in my path. and i don't even care.
praise the lord that these times have become fewer and farther between.

how have these bouts of seething anger become controlled and overcome?
because of all the anger management books and studies i've read?
or maybe there's no need for fiery exasperation, because life's going my way.

well, life is not going my way.
and i've given away all my books on the subject.
it's something else that i'm learning that turns my vexation away.
my dad said something in a sermon once that really rocked my angry heart:


worship realignment? could it be?

the reason i get so furious and hateful is because i am running the show.
i am not walking in the spirit, and ruled by the peace of christ.
in james 4 we read about resisting the devil and drawing near to god.
and, there is only one lawgiver, one judge. (and it ain't me!)
when i am fixed on jesus and his glory in all things, anger cannot abide. no sin can.

so i ask the lord to forgive me. to realign my heart to his.
to help me trust his lead and walk in it. with joy.


hide your face from my sins,
and blot out all my iniquities.
create in me a clean heart, o god,
and renew a right spirit within me.
cast me not away from your presence,
and take not your holy spirit from me.
restore to me the joy of your salvation,
and uphold me with a willing spirit.
{psalm 51:9-12 esv}

when we cry out to the lord for his help, his forgiveness, he hears us.
when we draw near to god, he will draw near to us!

let's seek the lord's face today.
lay our hearts wide open to his cleansing grace and steadfast love.
ask him to blot out our sin, and make us right with him.
we're never too far down that his love can't get beneath us!
praise him for redemption today!
worship him today, with fresh zeal and thankfulness.



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    1. awesome, june. on time god, yes he is! xo

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  2. Absolute truth.
    Speak it, girl!

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    1. kimberlee, thank you for your encouragement.
      pressing on!
      loveya.

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  3. Yes! Redemption runs so deep, thank you Jesus. Beautiful Truth, my dear.

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  4. dear Ms. Hannah,
    this blessed me beyond words today.
    i am that girl you described above many days.
    thank you so very much.
    xoxoxo

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    1. oh, mary. well you know i am, too!
      pressing on with you! he isn't finished with us yet, friend xoxo

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  5. I love this, Hannah. I am right there with you.

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    1. katie, so grateful to be journeying with you!
      love you.

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  6. boom boom POW I LOVE that, worship realignment!!!! It's so true, with everything, that is ALL we need is to get before the throne and get realigned!!!!

    xo

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    1. amen, gina! praise jesus for hearing us when we call and setting our hearts aright! xoxo

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  7. I always need a reminder that I am "not the judge". WORSHIP REALIGNMENT! thanks you my friend!

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    1. me, too, jami! always need reminding. we have a patient father.
      so grateful for christ and his grace! xo

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  8. Oh, how I needed this today. Worship realignment...just what I need. Thanks, Hannah!

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    1. verna, amen! wonderful how the lord supplies what we need and when.
      hugs to you, friend!

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  9. Awesome insight! The Lord has really been working on my heart in regards to the hasty words I speak or even just the tone I use when I'm angry. I just wrote out this verse in my journal yesterday morning! Thanks for sharing His words.

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    1. betsi, awesome verse to write out...speak it out loud!
      that helps me. i struggle daily with a hasty mouth :)
      press on, girl! xo

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  10. heart realignment in process for this sugar mama... :) And you are a gifted teacher.

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    1. me, too, laura. ME TOO. thanks for being such a faithful encourager! xo
      loveya.

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  11. Praise Jesus for this gentle reminder! And I LOVE the last bit: we're never too far down where HE can't get beneath us! Wooo Hoooo!

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    1. yes, ma'am, joy! praise him, never too low!
      he has us in his grip, love you xo

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  12. Oh Hannah. Amazing. I needed this today. Fresh zeal... I'm on it!

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    1. that's great, kate! god is sooo good!
      loveya, friend xo

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  13. i am battling a bit of anger right now... silly, unneeded anger that is me being selfish and petty. I was siting here feeling righteous in my little it of anger... thank you. Going to do a little prayer and reading right now.

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    1. oh, nessa. sounds familiar. praying for us both. that he will wash us new and turn our hearts to him!
      love you, grateful for you, friend xo

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  14. wise wisdom, ms. hannah. thanks for the word today, girl.

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  15. Perfect. Just perfect. What positive encouragement for the day. Thank you.
    ~Melissa @ Midwest Magnolia

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    1. melissa, thanks for reading! praise jesus for encouraging our hearts! xo

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  16. I have never heard of that and I love it the concept of realigning to the Lord through the practise of worship. Of course that makes great sense. thank you.

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    1. sharon, thanks for reading! praise jesus for fresh perspectives.
      grateful for your encouragement.

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  17. Hannah,
    This was a timely post for me, personally and I thank you for sharing it and purging anger.
    I am finally on the uphill climb from letting some different anger be released and it has turned me into a different person. I'm filled with joy, where I once felt the burden of anxiety, hurt and anger towards those that had bruised me.
    Now I am able to look at situations with a more unbiased eye and see the role I played/play and wouldn't you know.....I am also to blame.
    I believe that anger not only steals moments of our life (sin will do that), but it also prohibits us from seeing situations clearly.

    Sure, things and situations still hurt me when I think about them, but instead of dwelling and wondering, "why, Lord?" i think, "give me wisdom and peace, Lord."

    Thank you Hannah for walking us through your process, so we can walk through ours.

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    1. rachel, i am so thankful that you were blessed here and are on the uphill climb!
      as you can probably guess, this post could really have been a series long:) i too am sifting through so many different hurts, and feeling the ache of bruises recent and in the past.
      praise jesus for his redemption and long suffering! he is mighty to save, daily, from anger and everything that robs our joy in him.

      sending you huge hugs and praying for you. also, good gracious do i miss you!! xo

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  18. This was really helpful. Thank you for writing it and sharing with us. And thank you to Rachel too for your comment. So many of us are on similar journeys. So much to pray about...

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    1. sarah, god is so good! so wonderful that we can share our hearts in a community like this.
      so blessed and lifted up by our encouraging one another.
      we are on similar paths, heading for glory, grateful for you!

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  19. This spoke straight to my heart-thank you for being so honest :) It's always so easy to think we are in control-let Him be our guide and all will be right!!!!

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    1. amen, jaqueline. i wish i could just learn the lesson for good, you know?? :)
      thanks for your encouragement, girl!

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  20. Worship realignment... yes, that is so true. I'm learning to surrender the things I get angry about, realizing there are things I have no control over. He is showing me that He is in control... that He has a plan. :)

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    1. yes, linda. he does have plans! trusting him with you, sweet friend.
      so grateful for you!

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  21. When I realized that you are in North Dakota, it reminded me of how angry I was the 4 years that I lived in South Dakota (military living).
    You write with inspiration! So glad that my daughter passed this on to me.
    Blessings to you!

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    1. thank you, bonnie! cheers my soul to know your were encouraged.
      xoxo

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  22. oooooh, friend. I have this problem...big.time. Only thing is, it's all in my head so it appears that everything is ok to those around me. I SO desire to have a day free from the anger that wells up inside of me from past wrongs. I was hurt so deeply and i know that I need to let it go....to move on. God has forgiven me so much so why do I allow this anger and disappointment to control me? Thanks for you sweet words and I'm thankful God is a forgiving Father!!

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  23. Such an important post and topic, Hannah. Thank you so much for your vulnerability that has breathed life into so many dark places that we can keep hidden in shame. He has good things for those of us who desire the "right spirit" within us!!! Oh, how I long for that place! Thank you for the reminder of that holy longing...there is good in store, for you, for me. By His grace!!!
    xo

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  24. Wow. I really needed this.
    I've been dealing with an issue for two years now and it has been such a challenge for my to let go of the anger and ward off bitterness. I fight it almost daily and it seems like every time it's safely behind me, an ugly reminder rears it head and I know I have more work to do.
    Thank you for the encouragement.
    Writing "Renew a right spirit within me" on my fridge.

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  25. Hi, I found the graphic of Psalm 51:10 on Pinterest aqnd followed it here. I'm so glad I did. This is a awesome post and I love your blog!

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  26. Hi Hannah,
    I too found your picture of Psalm 51:10 on Pinterest and followed it here. I mentioned this post and used the graphic (attributing it to you of course) on my blog here: http://mylsquaredlife.blogspot.com/. Please let me know if this is not okay with you and if you'd like me to take the graphic down, and I will. I don't want to infringe on your copyright or anything! Have a great day, and very awesome article about managing anger.

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