God's Will in My Life

the term God's will in my life doesn't always sit well with me. i want it to… i do. i use it myself sometimes but try to be very careful about throwing it out there. i sort of feel like it's used for anything and everything. things that i am not certain are actually, really and truly, His will. 

am i where i am at today because it was God's will for my life?

or was it because of the choices that I made... with His guidance, bouts of sin, bouts of obedience, and a whole lot of grace along the way? 

if i'm being honest, i'm not 100% sure. it's a debate that could go on and on and on. 

i do not, ever, doubt that He knows every step i am going to take, every breath i will breathe. i know this. i guess my wondering, and debating back and forth in my own mind, over this is mostly over the term His will. I can readily say, we can definitely go in and out of His will. and then the next day feel that every single thing in my life is His perfect will


i don't think that because the offer you put in on that half a million dollar house was accepted, it was necessarily God's will for your life. i think that if you came in below asking price and the seller was ready to get out of there, he accepted. could you have gone on to find a better home? maybe. maybe not. God's will?

is it God's will when horrible things happen?

when that precious eight year old girl in cambodia is sold in to sex slavery by her own parents? is it God's will for her life just because it happened? will she come to know Christ through this horrendous life? will she get out of the brothels one day and bless others who walked the same road? maybe. maybe not. 

is it God's will that i am a stay at home mom in lower middle class america? should i stay in this comfortable life forever? would it be His will if we up and left the country to be missionaries, or would His will for me be that i still focus on being a wife, and mom who teaches her kids the best she can about Jesus?

i don't know.


there aren't many times in my life i can look back and say well, I felt God strongly urging me to do this so it was His will. i can say it about meeting and marrying my husband. i felt God's presence leading me to Him and saw God's plans flash before my eyes when Caleb came in to my life. He was someone i prayed for for a long time. our relationship was something that only Jesus could stitch together.

but for the most part, in my life, i have just tried to live a life that pleases Him. a lot of times i don't know which way to go, or which way He will lead me. and at that point i have to be living IN his will, rather than waiting for it. 

most often God doesn't audibly speak to me, or even give me signs, about the choice that i need to make. but if i am living a life that is obedient to Him, reading His Word, and consistently being in prayer about what He has for me, then i will be able to make decisions with more confidence that I am doing what He would want me to do. His plans for me will be a whole lot clearer. God gave me a brain to make good choices, He gave me common sense, and more importantly, He gave me His Word to follow and His commandments to keep. 

and when the hard, heartbreaking, awful things happen along the way i probably won't ever know why exactly. 

but here's what i do know:

He goes before me.

i'll always know that He makes such beautiful things from our pain, and that our pain has a purpose.

this life isn't about me. it's about Him. it's about loving others. it's about sharing the Gospel. and Jesus never said that following Him was going to be easy.

it's my story for His glory.


32 comments:

  1. Beautiful. Something I also struggle with. God's will knit in with our sinful fallen world. Thanks for writing this Danielle <3

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    1. thanks for reading, friend. glad we are not alone in this.

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  2. I have the same thoughts word for word. I think many of us do. You are right on about throwing the phrase, "It's God's will for my life around" loosely and often. No doubt I am guilty of doing the same from time to time. Often, we feel convinced we received "a sign" from God, when really it's an agreement we make with ourselves. We take this agreement that is not rooted in God's will and run with it. This can go bad quickly. When we're convinced it's God's will, we close ourselves off to all other possibilities. As you shared, it's important to stay in His word and in constant prayer. The more we abide in Him, keeps us more in tune with His will for our lives. Thank you so much for sharing this, Danielle.

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    1. thank you for sharing! it is comforting to know that i am not the only one who needs help deciphering the gray areas in life :)

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  3. Thanks for sharing! you have such a beautiful writing style :)

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  4. The question of God's will is such a difficult one! you are doing the right thing. Seek him, and he will work all thing for your good

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  5. it is God's will that we live for his glory. we jumble it up with our own sin and our own desires and call it good.
    so, boom. agreed. :)

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  6. I definitely struggle with the phrase as well. I feel like we pray that prayer so often: "God show me Your will for my life." I was taught recently that maybe it's better to pray "God show me Your will and show me how I can serve and glorify You in it." The more we stay in the word and plant our roots deep, the more we will understand or feel or perceive His will in this place, and He welcomes us to join in. I love this post!

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  7. I often remind myself that God wants me where he wants me even more than I do, all I have to do is make sure I'm daily seeking him and bringing my choices before his throne. And then because of that heart that is willingly seeking him I think he will bless us wherever we choose to go. It's hard to hear the voice of God sometimes, but I have always seen him lead me in the big things like vocation and where we live because of I've been seeking.

    And he doesn't always speak in a big booming voice, but often through our circumstances and our feelings about them.

    I love your reminder though, it's my story for his glory. That is the most important thing!

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    1. thanks, gina! "God wants me where he wants me even more than I do" … yes.

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  8. i really appreciate your ability to be open and honest...i know, like you, that it's God's ultimate will that we all should be saved by accepting Jesus as our Savior and that we all should live to bring Him glory...beyond that, it's not always easy to know His will for every situation and circumstance of our lives or the lives of others...like you, i'm so very thankful He does go before us and that He brings beauty and joy out of some really tough things...hugs to you and God bless you!

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  9. I think about this often as well. And I really struggled with it as a new believer years ago. I desire to please God...and others; not necessarily a healthy desire at times. That's the people pleaser in me!
    I'm grateful that His grace and mercy meets us where we're at. And I truly believe that all He wants is for us to walk with Him daily...to take up our cross and follow Him...day by day.
    Thanks for sharing this :)

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    1. yes! agreed. i guess my pondering comes in which way to go when we are following Him no matter which way we choose.

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  10. wow. I knew I wasn't the only one that God didn't speak to or showed signs to all the time. I guess when that happens when we want so desperately to hear from Him it just simply wasn't the right time. It's all about His timing in all things.
    One thing I never do is doubt Him. like so many tend to do when He doesn't come through for them or something bad happens in their life.

    And what I loved the most about what you wrote is that we are not living this life for ourselves but for Him.

    Blessings to you.

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    1. amen to never doubting Him. thank you for sharing your heart today.

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  11. good post on a tricky subject:). i've been taught that there is difference between God's 'declared' will (i.e. don't lie, be holy, fear God) and His 'sovereign/hidden' will (God is ultimately in control/allowing all events) biblically. That's helped me process a lot of things.....and makes sense w/ Scripture.
    "this life isn't about me. it's about Him. it's about loving others. it's about sharing the Gospel." amen! love that.

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    1. i have been taught this too, it does help, for sure! but sometimes i still get lost in these thoughts…

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  12. It's very true! What a phrase that so many people just throw around. You're definitely right. God's will isn't this ambiguous thing. He's given us guidance and wants us to live according to the Word and follow in the footsteps of Jesus. When we do those things, we will be living out His will in our lives. As long as we are living above reproach and representing Christ in our lives as he wants us to...we will honor him. :)

    Thanks for this post! It's not something a lot of people think about much, myself included!

    Stop by and check out my blog if you get a moment: http://munchtalk.blogspot.com/

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  13. preach it sister. love this post. love you.

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  14. Beautiful words, I almost wrote your whole post out word for word in my notebook because your words hit home so much I really needed this reminder especially as I feel I need to be on a personal journey to find who God wants me to be and what his plan is for me. Thank you for this it was perfect timing for me.

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  15. Amazing post! You are not alone with your struggle. I often think about the same things and wonder if I am truly walking in His perfect will.
    Thank you for sharing!

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  16. If we are living a life that pleases Him, we are in His Will. I so agree with you on the theology of the buying a house. We have free will!!! It was explained to me simply years ago, because I was so concerned about what God's Will was for my life. And I learned that God's Will is GOD'S WAY. It's simply living a godly life, which we perfectly won't do. But it's going down the path He wants for us which is good and pure.
    I'm glad you wrote about it, because there are a lot of different views on it!

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