Give me just a minute

I know I say that phrase far too often.

There just never seems to be enough time in the day. There's always piles of clothes needing to be washed, rooms needing cleaned, food needing prepared and diapers, goodness the diapers needing to be changed!

And then there's my want-to-do list. I want to have more time to cook meals like I made pre-children. I want to work on all the ideas in my head for my shop. I want to exercise more. I want to finish painting our kitchen cabinets.

But I'm just too busy to do it all.

And that's just what the Lord has been working on me lately. Busyness.

It started this summer when I did a Bible study on Parenting with Intimacy. This stuck out to me:

 "If Satan can't make you a "bad" parent, the next best thing is to make you an overly "busy" parent."

Hmm. Think on that will you?


My kids and husband need me. They don't need to wait a minute. They need my time. Time spent playing with them in their world. Talking. Listening. Showing them I love them by giving them my minutes.


So I started working on that in my own life.

It meant saying "okay" instead of "in a minute."

It meant making a quick dinner instead of spending hours in the kitchen cooking and cleaning.

It meant me saying no to certain opportunities so I wouldn't have another item on my never-ending to-do list.

It meant simplifying my life so I could have more TIME with my girls and husband. (I'm not saying I don't do laundry, cook or clean, or do anything for myself. I'm just trying to cut out the "busy" and create more quality time for us.)


Then it hit me again. I was reading my Bible in Luke 10 and was reminded again:

40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

So there it is. Distracted = busy.

That took it another step further for me. See, I had been cutting down the busy in my life to make more time to love on my family and focus on their needs. But, I hadn't been taking the busy out of my time with God.

Some days I get too busy to start my day off in God's word. Wha-what?! Too busy for God.

It's okay, you can sign a petition to get me off the contributor list. But yes, I admit to hitting the snooze one more time - just in time to rush around and make a bottle before the baby wakes up, then on to the other one's breakfast...and a shower? Forget about it, that can wait. And then the rest of the day has just somehow happened and I then I'm completely exhausted to even think about reading my Bible.

So yeah, I am a work in progress.


I'm trying to be less selfish and think more about what's important. My "needs" can wait. I can work on my shop when they start school. I can cook when the girls are off to college. I can do those things later. I can't get back this time I have with them. When they do start school I imagine I'll long for "just a minute" playing with dolls. When they're in college I imagine I'll want to trade a fancy meal for a box of shells and cheese just to have "just a minute" with them eating at my table again. 

I hope for myself and you too that as the holiday season is fast upon us that we can all get a little less busy and focus on the only thing needed.


  1. Hey Lesley, I LOVE this post! It hits me right where God has been working as well for oh, about two years or more! It's a process and I am definitely still in it. Oh, how many times I say just a minute ... sigh. We have instituted Slow Day in our home this year - I do have school aged children and they are homeschooled :) we still have school on Slow Day - but it is a call to slow the pace, stay home, stop and look at leaves and smell flowers and make something yummy for breakfast and enjoy the beauty around us. Thanks for sharing this from your journey!

  2. Love this! That is the 2nd time God has shown me that scripture this week. Thank you!

  3. Thank you for this post. This is the 3rd item I have read toay about slowing down and being present. I stopped and focused on the words and God's message he is sending today.

  4. Thanks for your words! I'm a mother to a 9 month old baby girl, and work full-time as well. So my time with my daughter is very precious, and I constantly have to battle the "to-do" list when I get home in favor of time with my girl.

  5. This is such a good reminder. I just recently heard someone say that they needed to know what they were called to do as much as they needed to know what they were called to not do. Every yes means a no to something else, and likewise every no leaves me room to say yes to want I really am supposed to be doing.

  6. LOVE this post! It's exactly what I needed today. Thanks Lesley for sharing!!

  7. SO, SO true! the Holy Spirit frequently reminds me of the "mary & martha" syndrome. i want to be like Mary & choose what is BETTER.
    we're *all* a work in progress ~ thanks for sharing your heart Lesley!!

  8. Just what I needed to hear!! This has been heavy on my heart lately...wonderful message!

  9. This speaks directly to my heart, Lesley. Thank you so much for putting that into words for me. I am an amiable personality and I too tend to say 'yes' before digesting what it is I'm agreeing to. I don't even have kids yet.. and the busyness seems to creep itsway into my life.

    The Lord is working on my heart in this regard... along with the 3 hits of the snooze button in the morning... but when I don't have a morning with Him... I realize how much better my days are when I do start it surrounded by Him word and truth.

    I'm so enjoying this blog... I'm a new follower and am excited about the encouragement I'm receiving from all of you contributors :)


  10. Thanks Lesley! We all need to read this!

  11. girl. needed this. love you.
    (ps. i think you may have the cutest girls. ever.)

  12. Exactly what I needed to read today! Thank you!

  13. Wow! Great post and great reminder. The quote about Satan and the "bad/busy" parent is going to stick with me.

  14. i'm a work in progress, too, lesley. love this.